The Thinking Dominant - Growth Through Mental Exercise

Quickies

July 21, 2009

The Gift

Often in BDSM-speak, it is said submission is a gift. What does this mean to you?  What about dominance–can this be a gift too?

Relationships

July 7, 2009

Alter Space

If you were to instruct your submisisve to create an area or space (something akin to an “altar”, for lack of a better word!) to demonstrate his or her devotion to you, what would you like to see included in such a space?  Assume this construct is kept private.

Definitions, Internal Thoughts

June 23, 2009

Authenticity

What are your thoughts regarding those who primarily are attracted to BDSM because of its “transgressive” nature? Are dominants who embrace BDSM more as a fun, taboo way to explore sexuality any less authentic than those who have committed to the philosophy of BDSM/ base their relationships on power exchange regardless of the sexual elements?

Internal Thoughts

May 26, 2009

Entitlement

Ownership is entitlement, but the entitlement brings responsibility. A responsibility that should be more than do no harm

If you are going to take ownership, what responsibilities do you feel you assume?

Does your care result in a sub/slave who also feels a sense of entitlement?

Quickies

May 12, 2009

Brattiness

What does the term ‘brat’ mean to you?

Uncategorized

May 8, 2009

Getting A Facelift and Call for Help

This site is going through a design change, be prepared for a slight change.

I’m also looking for Dominants to help with prompts. No time obligation or a lot of work required. Just 2 prompts from each person willing to help, that’s all I ask. Help keep this site alive, please.

Definitions, Relationships

February 10, 2009

Love

Is love different in D/s relationships compared to vanilla ones?

Do Dominants and submissives love differently?

Have you experienced submissives falling in love faster than Dominants?

Are there types of love in D/s?

Quickies

February 3, 2009

Lowered Gaze

How do you feel about having your submissive not look you in the eye? Do you prefer the lowered gaze in submission? When would it be appropriate for the submissive to look upon you then.

If you feel that lowered gaze isn’t your preference, why? What is the benefit of seeing into thier eyes?

Relationships

January 27, 2009

Misbehavior in Public

How do you handle misbehavior in public? Do you consider discreet but immediate chastisement or do you punish later in private? How is the punishment responded to? What are your favorite forms of discipline to correct bad behavior?

Internal Thoughts

January 20, 2009

Confusion of Emotions

Do you think that subs confuse submission with love? Is it possible to need to submit because love is there? Is it possible to love someone because they submit?

Do you think Doms confuse Dominance with love? Is it possibl to need to be dominant because love is there? Is it possible to love someone because you control them?