The following excerpt and link to article is about doubts that plague dominants at one time or another. I have found it very important to be aware of my doubts and to overcome them; to harness that energy and use it for positive reinforcement that way I do is exactly right.
Experienced tops seem so smooth and in control as they run their scenes. But all of us, at one time or another has experienced doubts about our BDSM practices–doubts that sometimes overwhelm players and force them to drop out of the scene. But the most common doubts are unfounded, based on nothing but the preconceptions society grinds into us against SM play. If you face your doubts with reason, observation, and the willingness to learn and practice, you’ll find that major roadblocks disappear into thin air.
After reading this article think about the doubts that you have had about your Dominant nature either in the past or presently. Use the ones in the article or come up with your own.
Dispelling BDSM Doubts: The Top by Mistress Ariachne
- How do they make you feel?
- What you did to overcome it? If you haven’t overcome yet, what are the internal struggles with the doubt?
- What have these doubts taught you about yourself in your relationship?
- What have you seen as doubts from your submissive? Can you help resolve those for her/him?
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