Ah, it’s that time of year again… where men run around at the last moment buying roses at jacked up prices and those cliche teddy bears with chocolate hearts. Women swoon and go all crazy over the slightest romantic moment. Now it may seem that I’m a bit against Valentine’s Day; don’t get me wrong, it’s great for those who can’t express themselves the rest of the year. I on the other hand have no problem telling my girl exactly what she means to me whenever I want to.
The D/s lifestyle has a few cards up its sleeve when it comes to romance though. Can you be romantic and still be D/s? How is romance expressed? And even bigger, what about love? Today’s topic is all about that four letter word. Within the confines of the relationship I find it quite necessary to have an emotional connection to my partner. In past relationships I cared deeply for the one I was with. Could it have been love? Possibly, but more likely not.
Each relationship is going to be different, but from experience I can say that romance is definitely possible in a D/s relationship. It can be all the similar things that you hear/see in vanilla society but it can also have D/s connotations. For example, the giving of a collar is not only very D/s but it can be romantic; a setting of commitment for each within the relationship.
Essays on Love, romance and D/s
Now the thoughts:
- Is love a part of your dynamic? How do you express it?
- Can you be in a M/s or D/s relationship without love? Explain your views.
- How is romance the same/different within the power exchange?
- If you could write a letter telling your partner exactly how you feel, what would be in it?
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