Negotiating the Fantasy
Once you have a fantasy picked out that you’d like to bring into reality it is time to discuss this with your partner. This should be no different than a planned negotiated scene. Now if you are beyond needing to do that, I still recommend presenting this fantasy scene as something new and needing discussion with your partner.
Discussing or broaching the subject of entertaining your fantasy, even if it’s a light one isn’t going to be easy unless you already know this is something your partner wants too. Plan a quiet moment to share with them the entirety of your fantasy, all that you have done for safety and other preparations and ask them what they think. Be prepared for questions, possible emotions and an outright no.
- What sorts of questions are you prepared for?
- How would you answer these questions?
- Do you think a ‘no’ is expected? How will you respond?
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