Play Parties 

Do you attend play parties?

What do you enjoy out of them?

What is the most extreme scene you have witnessed? Been involved in?

Have you ever been Dungeon Monitor? What was that like?

Discreet Public Play 

Do you play in public?

What is the most daring thing you or your partner have done in public?

How do you feel about bystanders that may happen upon you?

What is the most daring thing you or a partner have done in public?

Aftercare and Analysis

You’ve full-filled that fantasy of yours. It may have taken days or weeks to put together.  You and your partner have placed it in your book of memories and you can now check it off the list of things to do or dream.

But you aren’t done. Now comes the analysis. Exactly how did you feel about enacting a fantasy?

• Reflect on your initial reactions to the fantasy. Were they as good as you hoped they would be?
• Would you try to do this fantasy again? Is it still a fantasy of yours?
• What would you do the same? What would you do differently?
• If you had to help someone else set up this fantasy, what advice would you give?

Dominant. A natural role of humans to take charge and care for others. We are a large group of individuals with many different careers and lifestyle choices.

No where is it defined that BDSM has to be a part of a Dominant/submissive lifestyle. But it’s an integral part of its makeup. Every relationship, whether it’s vanilla or not has a dominant and submissive partner. Sometimes the role is fluid and it shifts from person to person. But in a D/s relationship it is generally well-defined. You can be into kinky play and not have a dominant personality. You could be the type of person that just role-plays a scene of Master-slave.

• How do you see dominance in relation to BDSM?
• If you had to describe your level and character of dominance, what would it be?
• How do you enhance your dominance?
• Do you consider yourself naturally dominant or is this something you had to develop?
• What do you think of the term true dom?