my favourites - his hand on my neck under my hair, squeezing - makes my knees weak and can be done anywhere - often done when I’m stressed, even in public - looks innocuous.

a quick foray to his home office, unzip, blow job (not necessarily finished), hands tangled in hair, on the knees - can only be 10 minutes or less but again, reaffirms, also great foreplay.

hand down the back of my pants between my legs - lightening quick - I wear very low slung pants so this is easy done.

we have lots of little rituals like that, with 4 kids, numerous friends (theirs) a houseful of animals, fulltime jobs … well, you have to do something and the bonus for me is that being reassured like that always calms me.