Manners and etiquette are an important part of a submissive’s training. From basic courtesy to rigid formal protocol they all have their place in a submissive’s experience. When it comes to teaching manners, it is the Dominant’s preference on how these manners are to be used.
I like a more structured protocol, from the basic p’s and q’s to a proper apology format. I prefer submissives to use Sir or Madam rather than names as soon as they know this person or that identifies as a Dominant. It’s out of respect for me that they do it, not because they necessarily respect the Dom to which they are addressing.
- What sort of manners do you prefer to see in a submissive?
- If protocol is required, how do you begin training?
- Why do you prefer a certain level of etiquette more than another?
- How do you chastise a lapse in pleasantries?
What sort of manners do you prefer to see in a submissive?
First off, I expect (not prefer) very good general courtesy and politeness. All the standards; please, thank you, may I, would anyone mind if; in a public setting I would expect that she be reverent, respectful and deferential, manners which exhibit her place. In private I expect the kind of manners that are appropriate to addressing the owner of her time, body and being. Not a constant barrage of may I this or may I that, but I expect that she would recognize the defference between casual time and formal time intuitively.
If protocol is required, how do you begin training?
I have never been big on protocols, predefined statements, phrasing structures or scripts. I find overly proscriptive protocols begin to feel and sound artificial, not heartfelt.
How do you chastise a lapse in pleasantries?
A lapse in pleasantry, specifically in a social situation, would be pointed out at the moment of violation with a simple word or two, intended to simply emphasize and make note of the lapse. Later, in private the specifics of the situation would be discussed by pointing out the breach that took place and what she did incorrectly, and what she should have done. The lesson/correction would be accompanied by an appropriate oppotunity for reflection, recollection and resolution.
David
February 14th, 2008