I read an interesting post the other day about the administration of pain and the sadistic dominant’s desire to inflict pain on the submissive. His exact question is: “Does a dominant want to hurt his submissive?” I was going to include my thoughts here for a moment, but I find that I don’t want to influence any one else’s.

In thinking about this question try to join your thoughts with why you are or are not a sadist.

• How does a dominant enhance the sensation of pain a submissive would feel?
• What are your favorite forms of pain to inflict?
• Describe what goes on in your mind during a pain session.

It is almost a universal knowledge that dominants expect their submissives to be honest with them. There is a real push to have complete openness and honesty in a BDSM relationship. There is no doubt that an open mind and heart can help make sure that all people in the relationship are getting what they want and need. Also it is said that submissives need to be forthcoming, which is generally harder because submissives tend to keep things to themselves if they feel it will affect their relationship, cause punishment for bad behavior or may ruin an experience.

I’ve read places that dominants are not held by the same requirement. What do you think? Should dominants also be honest with their partners? Should there be some level of secrecy in the dominant’s role?