I read an interesting post the other day about the administration of pain and the sadistic dominant’s desire to inflict pain on the submissive. His exact question is: “Does a dominant want to hurt his submissive?” I was going to include my thoughts here for a moment, but I find that I don’t want to influence any one else’s.
In thinking about this question try to join your thoughts with why you are or are not a sadist.
- How does a dominant enhance the sensation of pain a submissive would feel?
- What are your favorite forms of pain to inflict?
- Describe what goes on in your mind during a pain session.
The lead-in question, “Does a dominant want to hurt his submissive?” depends on if the dominant is a sadist or not. If yes, then yes. As a non-sadist dominant, my answer would have to be not really. Having said that, as a dominant, interested in exerting control, I do enjoy eliciting a response; and often times that response is a result of discomfort, or even pain.
= How does a dominant enhance the sensation of pain a submissive would feel?
- I think the relationship of the submissive to the dominant enhances the sensations felt by the submissive. Relinquishing control, submitting to his discipline, rigor, methods provides it’s on satisfaction, in addition to the response to the pain/discomfort. There are submissives that will get the charge simply from making themselves available for the pleasure of the dominant, pain or not. Likewise, there are masochists who will get their pleasure of the physical attention, even when there is no sense of submission, a purely bottom experience.
= What are your favorite forms of pain to inflict?
- For me it is about sensual arousal, or simply being in control and being able to accept the submission and use it. Pain is secondary, and usually is on the form of nipple clips/clamps, flogging, slapping, not because of the pain delivered although it is often there, but because of the sensual response.
David
February 21st, 2008
To me it isn’t about the pain, the humilation or the degradation it is all about the submission.
The most incredable moments for me are when I can see her stop because she has reached a limit or boundry and then her decision to submit and accept. It is usualy only a fraction of a second but it is there and very intense to see and feel it happen.
~How does a dominant enhance the sensation of pain a submissive would feel?
Sometimes by requiring her to ask for more in a non verbal way thru action or posture. Other times it is by holding or binding her in such a way that she escape or resist if she wanted to. It challanges her to push her self.
~What are your favorite forms of pain to inflict?
Mostly with my hands: Spanking, slapping, pinching and rough handling. There is often biting and light scratching or clawing. She doesn’t wear a brand or ink as a mark instead there is an almost permant bite mark on her shoulder that says “MINE”. Other ways are always being explored and tried.
~Describe what goes on in your mind during a pain session.
Hmmm It is almost like a dual personaility. There is the beast that revels in the sex, the sensations, feeling her pain and submission. Then there is the guardian watching over, that makes sure I don’t seriously hurt her, push her to far or allow her to hurt her self.
Occasionaly the feelings and emotion do overwhelm me and I lock up as it surges through my mind and body almost like waves.
Trae
May 23rd, 2008