The Thinking Dominant

You’ve come to a time in your Dominant development where you feel that you have nothing else to expand on and your abilities are as developed as you can get them. Where do you go from here? Do you concede that you just can’t do any more within the extent of your mind or emotions?

Not exactly. Exploring limits is not just for the submissive. A dominant has just as much ability to expand and develop as a submissive. You can be more than you are. It takes effort and it takes a desire to see yourself as more than you are.

Say for example that you aren’t content with yourself; that your control over your submissive has leveled out, things are going well but you want to do more, s/he has expressed a desire to go further but you just don’t know how. How do you get started in your own development?

The next few posts will be about finding the next step and taking it.

With every step you can find more about yourself that you can develop and work towards another dominant version of yourself. This is not a course to change who you are; it is a way to open up your vision to see who you already are. To develop yourself further.

First lets think about why you feel stuck. Trust me, everyone has times like this. You may even be depressed about it. You may think that you aren’t really dominant and that this lifestyle isn’t for you. It could also be a turning point in your relationship.

When did you begin to feel stuck in a rut?

Where are you in your dominance?

Try this writing exercise:

Write down on paper the traits and descriptions of what you do now that make you a dominant. List activities you do as well as behaviors you have adopted. Star the ones that you feel are well developed and you have a good handle on. Take a look at the ones that do not have stars on them. Answer the following questions:

1. What items on the list do you feel need to be developed more?
2. How would these items enhance your strengthen your current relationship or character?
3. Where could you get advice, knowledge or information about developing these skills?

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