In the previous post we pulled together a list of activities, behaviors and characteristics that we have as dominants. In this list we identified (hopefully) which ones we’d like to develop further. The next step is setting up a plan of action to strengthen these characteristics. Analyzing moderate steps to the ultimate goal will help you grow slowly and achieve more balance.
Let’s take a basic task for an example. Say you want to improve your behavior surrounding how you dole out punishments. You’d like to be more focused and ultimately be able to express forgiveness more fully when the punishment is complete. You’ve found that this final stage has been difficult for you in previous situations and you’d like to be able to develop it better.
- The first step may be to show firmness when handing down punishment and not wavering if there is struggle with your submissive in accepting this punishment.
- The next step could be actually completing said punishment. It could be from making sure the task is performed successfully to providing they physical punishment yourself. There should be control in this action.
- Next you want to be able to convey forgiveness to your submissive for their actions and the success of completing the punishment.
- Lastly you need to forgive them and move on. The situation is over and should not be brought up again.
In this way you can see that each step brings you closer to how you’d like to behave and how your character will develop as you reach each step.
Take one of the activities, characteristics or behaviors you’d like to develop further and set up your own steps for development. Make them as concise as you possibly can. We’ll begin following and reporting on your progress in future posts.
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