Sometimes it just doesn’t work out and D/s relationships come to an end. This isn’t unusual, but how things end can affect us greatly.
- How do you deal with the end of a relationship that didn’t end well?
- Do you have any rituals or rites of passage to signify the end of the collar?
- What do you do with the collar? Is it clensed and reused or do you discard it in some way?
Good topic!
I tend to not do so well with relationships that end poorly. I dwell, over-analyze what went wrong, that kind of thing. In some ways, I suppose reflection is a good thing…I like to think there is something to be learned in every experience, good or bad–actually, there especially are lessons to be learned from those experiences that are more painful.
I have a “ending” ritual I’ve used in the past…its based in paganism. It involves burning two candles representative of myself and the other individual for 7 days, knotting yarn or ribbon and then cutting it symbolically and burying it.
I’ve actually not yet collared a submissive, so the last question is not one I can answer based on experience. However, I feel that I would not re-use a collar I had given to a submissive if that relationship were to end. I believe I’d do something similar to the releasing ritual I described above. Probably cleanse it and then bury it.
Thanks for posting these questions, I enjoy them.
Pagankinktress
September 19th, 2008