Terms of the Agreement
Once someone enters an M/s relationship, do you think that it’s fair, right, whatever word you want to use here, for the Master to change the orginal agreement; or, do you think that s/he has the right to make whatever changes he desires without “checking” with the slave?
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The original agreement, or contract, is made to bind two people of equal bearing into roles for the relationship. It symbolizes the establishment of their roles and as such, requires all parties to agree to any alterations without coercion. The Master may not unilaterally change the agreement nor influence the slave into agreeing with the change.
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I just wanted to thank you for the Thinking Dominant. I am working my way forward from the first posting to the present as a weekly exercise. Keep up the great work.
Best,
Riley
Absolutely not! While the Master may have the unspoken right to change things with his slave, to do so is to change the dynamic of what was their original relationship. Relationships change, we all know they do, but to unilaterally make the change or coerce the slave into accepting the change, is not only wrong, it is also a breach of the relationship,
It has nothing to do with right or wrong in my view for Master to change the contract. It has everything to do with trust, respect, responsibility and control. Master must show control of Himself by not agreeing to something He may not be able to live up to. That is a lack of self-control. This will lead to loss of respect from His servant and eventual loss of control of the situation, which leads to rebellion. The way around this is to write into the contract a clause for discussing terms of renewal effective at pre-determined intervals; say, 6 months or one year. At that time the contract may be renegotiated by each party, thus allowing Master to change the contract without losing face.
i think if a Master has an integrity he wouldn’t do that — as it would take away consentuality.
I heartily agree with the clear consensus in this thread. The very basis of my relationship with my beloved Babygirl is trust and integrity. I would be violating these essential boundaries by unilaterally imposing change upon her. How could she trust her Daddy if she is unsure of the rules of play? She is devoted to my service because she knows that she can count on me to be strong and loving for her, to guide and nurture her emotionally, spiritually, and sexually. Any Dom worthy of the name knows that they’ve got to be rock solid reliable for their sub.