We’ve probably all talked sub drop to death, but what about Top drop?

• Do you experience Top drop?
• How common do you think it is?
• What is it like for you?
• Do you have any aftercare or remedies?
• Any preventative methods?

Describe a clothing preference you have for yourself or your partner.

1. Does it have s story of its inception?
2. Is it a fetish or just a preference?
3. Why do you like this form or article of dress?

Aftercare and Analysis

You’ve full-filled that fantasy of yours. It may have taken days or weeks to put together.  You and your partner have placed it in your book of memories and you can now check it off the list of things to do or dream.

But you aren’t done. Now comes the analysis. Exactly how did you feel about enacting a fantasy?

• Reflect on your initial reactions to the fantasy. Were they as good as you hoped they would be?
• Would you try to do this fantasy again? Is it still a fantasy of yours?
• What would you do the same? What would you do differently?
• If you had to help someone else set up this fantasy, what advice would you give?

Playing It Out

The next step in exploring your fantasy is enacting it. It can be the most fun and rewarding part of the whole thing. If you have done all the preparation steps then this will be easy for you because your partner is ready and willing (hopefully) and you have everything you need to enjoy your fantasy to the fullest.

So, share how it went!

• What sort of warm up did you do?
• Where there any issues that came up that caused you to redirect the play or stop completely?
• What did you and your partner think of the fantasy acted out?
• Describe the scene.

Negotiating the Fantasy 

Once you have a fantasy picked out that you’d like to bring into reality it is time to discuss this with your partner. This should be no different than a planned negotiated scene. Now if you are beyond needing to do that, I still recommend presenting this fantasy scene as something new and needing discussion with your partner.

Discussing or broaching the subject of entertaining your fantasy, even if it’s a light one isn’t going to be easy unless you already know this is something your partner wants too. Plan a quiet moment to share with them the entirety of your fantasy, all that you have done for safety and other preparations and ask them what they think. Be prepared for questions, possible emotions and an outright no.

• What sorts of questions are you prepared for?
• How would you answer these questions?
• Do you think a ‘no’ is expected? How will you respond?

Selecting a Fantasy

Once we have thought about the fantasies that go through our head, get us all excited and stir our deepest emotions it’s time to think about how feasible it is to bring one to life. Can we entertain our fantasies? Most definitely for most of them. Granted we will still have a few that have to stay in the dark recesses of our mind feeding our thoughts.

But what about the few that are quite simply made for acting out? This week try to select one fantasy that you would really like to try and than ask yourself a few questions.

There are a few thoughts here:

• What is your fantasy?
• Can it be done safely; with the person you are with and within their limits?
• Is this something that could leave permanent marks, either physically, mentally or emotionally? How would you handle that?
• Do you need to learn anything or get some practice before you attempt to fulfill your fantasy?

We all have fantasies. Some of them are feasible and one day we just may get to try them. Others we’ve already entertained and found them to be either worth it or not all it was cracked up to be. This series will delve into exploration of your fantasies and the realities of bringing them into reality.

Think about some fantasies that you have entertained in the past.

• What makes them fantasy? Are they legal? Morally sound? Safe?
• Would you ever think about making this fantasy happen? Do you have the means to do it?
• What preparations would you need to have in place?
• What repercussions or consequences might there be?