Comments for The Thinking Dominant http://thinkingdom.the-iron-gate.com Growth Through Mental Exercise Wed, 17 Feb 2010 16:29:00 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 Comment on Teaching by Rog http://thinkingdom.the-iron-gate.com/2009/01/13/teaching/comment-page-1/#comment-565 Rog Wed, 17 Feb 2010 16:29:00 +0000 http://thinkingdom.the-iron-gate.com/?p=76#comment-565 Any good teacher, of any subject, MUST be a better student than a teacher. One must learn from every moment and experience- as much as one can. One must learn to learn, and learn to teach. Any one who does not try to learn from EVERY OTHER LIVING BEING is not living up to their potential as humans. How can one claim Mastery and not continuously strive towards their full potential? That old saw about "The best Tops started out as bottoms" does not mean that they actually started out as bottoms. Let's refocus it: "The best Teachers started out as students." Here's the part they wouldn't tell you: The best Teachers are STILL STUDENTS - And Always will be. Any good teacher, of any subject, MUST be a better student than a teacher. One must learn from every moment and experience- as much as one can. One must learn to learn, and learn to teach. Any one who does not try to learn from EVERY OTHER LIVING BEING is not living up to their potential as humans. How can one claim Mastery and not continuously strive towards their full potential?
That old saw about “The best Tops started out as bottoms” does not mean that they actually started out as bottoms.
Let’s refocus it: “The best Teachers started out as students.”

Here’s the part they wouldn’t tell you: The best Teachers are STILL STUDENTS – And Always will be.

]]> Comment on Politeness by jb http://thinkingdom.the-iron-gate.com/2008/01/10/politeness/comment-page-1/#comment-564 jb Tue, 16 Feb 2010 16:13:23 +0000 http://www.the-iron-gate.com/thinkingdom/2008/01/10/politeness/#comment-564 Honestly, positions like the one you express here are a big part of what makes me shy away from the larger bdsm community. My submission belongs to my partner in bdsm and only to her. Everybody else gets normal daily courtesy whatever their chosen role. Honestly, positions like the one you express here are a big part of what makes me shy away from the larger bdsm community. My submission belongs to my partner in bdsm and only to her. Everybody else gets normal daily courtesy whatever their chosen role.

]]> Comment on The Gift by stephanie http://thinkingdom.the-iron-gate.com/2009/07/21/the-gift/comment-page-1/#comment-514 stephanie Fri, 05 Feb 2010 01:56:18 +0000 http://thinkingdom.the-iron-gate.com/?p=104#comment-514 i agree with Sereena and kisha.....it is my choice to submit and in submitting to Him....it is my gift to Him. i agree with Sereena and kisha…..it is my choice to submit and in submitting to Him….it is my gift to Him.

]]> Comment on Love by Lady Lacis http://thinkingdom.the-iron-gate.com/2009/02/10/love/comment-page-1/#comment-507 Lady Lacis Sat, 09 Jan 2010 15:37:34 +0000 http://thinkingdom.the-iron-gate.com/?p=79#comment-507 I believe that love within the D/s relationship is much deeper and fuller than the love within the vanilla lifestyle. When my slave and I became partners many moons ago we began in Vanilla. The love was there, we were in love and happy, but then we became Lacis and Bear and our love became that much deeper and fuller love. I think when you become part of the D/s lifestyle whether it be a lifestyle choice or TPE, you have a stronger, deeper connection with your partner, spouse or slave and things begin to change. Our relationship has become much deeper, stronger, and connected better than when were ever in Vanilla. I believe that love within the D/s relationship is much deeper and fuller than the love within the vanilla lifestyle. When my slave and I became partners many moons ago we began in Vanilla. The love was there, we were in love and happy, but then we became Lacis and Bear and our love became that much deeper and fuller love. I think when you become part of the D/s lifestyle whether it be a lifestyle choice or TPE, you have a stronger, deeper connection with your partner, spouse or slave and things begin to change. Our relationship has become much deeper, stronger, and connected better than when were ever in Vanilla.

]]> Comment on The Gift by Sereena http://thinkingdom.the-iron-gate.com/2009/07/21/the-gift/comment-page-1/#comment-399 Sereena Wed, 16 Sep 2009 20:11:58 +0000 http://thinkingdom.the-iron-gate.com/?p=104#comment-399 My submission is always a choice. I have to continually choose to submit. I am not forced to submit. So, when I submit to the Boss, he accepts it as a treasured gift, because I am choosing him. My submission is always a choice. I have to continually choose to submit. I am not forced to submit. So, when I submit to the Boss, he accepts it as a treasured gift, because I am choosing him.

]]> Comment on The Gift by Malachi http://thinkingdom.the-iron-gate.com/2009/07/21/the-gift/comment-page-1/#comment-287 Malachi Fri, 21 Aug 2009 21:57:00 +0000 http://thinkingdom.the-iron-gate.com/?p=104#comment-287 Kisha I couldn't have put it more beautifully or elegantly myself. That is a perfect mirror of how I feel. Kisha I couldn’t have put it more beautifully or elegantly myself. That is a perfect mirror of how I feel.

]]> Comment on Authenticity by kisha http://thinkingdom.the-iron-gate.com/2009/06/23/authenticity/comment-page-1/#comment-285 kisha Sun, 16 Aug 2009 07:27:43 +0000 http://thinkingdom.the-iron-gate.com/?p=99#comment-285 Sometimes it helps to think of it without all those labels - such as top, bottom, Dom, sub. So, let's ask the same question in a different way. Is a full time student more genuine than a part time student? Is a part time student to be judged poorly because he or she wants more time to do other things? To me, i appreciate anyone - Top or Dom or Bottom or Submissive or Nilla - who can look at BDSM with a clear perspective and see it in a positive light. I'm quite alright with them calling it sexual fun. Sometimes it helps to think of it without all those labels – such as top, bottom, Dom, sub. So, let’s ask the same question in a different way. Is a full time student more genuine than a part time student?

Is a part time student to be judged poorly because he or she wants more time to do other things?

To me, i appreciate anyone – Top or Dom or Bottom or Submissive or Nilla – who can look at BDSM with a clear perspective and see it in a positive light. I’m quite alright with them calling it sexual fun.

]]> Comment on The Gift by kisha http://thinkingdom.the-iron-gate.com/2009/07/21/the-gift/comment-page-1/#comment-284 kisha Sun, 16 Aug 2009 07:18:15 +0000 http://thinkingdom.the-iron-gate.com/?p=104#comment-284 Oh,with all do respect to differing opinions, i disagree. When in action, submission and dominance are both choices. Oh for me, yes, i'm submissive. it's a big part of my make up. i had little choice in that matter. It's there, inside me, as potential. But, like anything else, i could ignore it or i could not. i could exercise it, or i could not. For me, i spent years at odds with it. i've fought it, i've feared it, i've demonized it, and i've squandered it. People do not always live up to their potential. i've also seen men and women with beautiful, instinctual dominance run from it like it was the devil himself. My peace came when i realized that choosing to embracing my submission gave me peace, strength, and satisfaction. Oh yes, it is something i enjoy. And, when i surrendered to my Master, it became his treasured gift. It's not his by any inborn right. He doesn't possess me by default. i gave and continue to give myself freely. And, that He accepts it, is His gift to me. Oh,with all do respect to differing opinions, i disagree. When in action, submission and dominance are both choices. Oh for me, yes, i’m submissive. it’s a big part of my make up. i had little choice in that matter. It’s there, inside me, as potential. But, like anything else, i could ignore it or i could not. i could exercise it, or i could not. For me, i spent years at odds with it. i’ve fought it, i’ve feared it, i’ve demonized it, and i’ve squandered it. People do not always live up to their potential. i’ve also seen men and women with beautiful, instinctual dominance run from it like it was the devil himself.

My peace came when i realized that choosing to embracing my submission gave me peace, strength, and satisfaction. Oh yes, it is something i enjoy. And, when i surrendered to my Master, it became his treasured gift. It’s not his by any inborn right. He doesn’t possess me by default. i gave and continue to give myself freely. And, that He accepts it, is His gift to me.

]]> Comment on Authenticity by Domophile http://thinkingdom.the-iron-gate.com/2009/06/23/authenticity/comment-page-1/#comment-282 Domophile Fri, 07 Aug 2009 05:10:40 +0000 http://thinkingdom.the-iron-gate.com/?p=99#comment-282 In our society BDSM, whether "full-time" (so-called) or part-time is trangressive. One can imagine a culture where it would be normative rather than transgressive. Transgression adds a certain dimension of danger, glamour, and escape. You might enjoy my recent posts In our society BDSM, whether “full-time” (so-called) or part-time is trangressive. One can imagine a culture where it would be normative rather than transgressive. Transgression adds a certain dimension of danger, glamour, and escape.

You might enjoy my recent posts

]]> Comment on The Gift by Nancy http://thinkingdom.the-iron-gate.com/2009/07/21/the-gift/comment-page-1/#comment-281 Nancy Thu, 30 Jul 2009 21:42:52 +0000 http://thinkingdom.the-iron-gate.com/?p=104#comment-281 Submission.. for me.. is not a "gift' I am submissive.. i have no choice. It doesn't make me unhappy .. i just know who and what i am~~ Submission.. for me.. is not a “gift’
I am submissive.. i have no choice.
It doesn’t make me unhappy .. i just know who and what i am~~

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