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Qualities of A Successful Dominant by Polly Peachum
Filed in: dominance
"The Problems Started After I Moved In" When talking to submissive women about their lives and relationships, the most frequent cause of sorrow and difficulty that gets mentioned is the tra[...]
What NOT to say to your Dominant... by Author Unknown
Filed in: humor
Pushing limits does not mean making Master so angry the vein above his right eye throbs. "Quit it!" "Ow, damnit!" "I'm hiding that toy when you go to work tomorrow" and c[...]
Orgasm Control by gina
Filed in: orgasm control, denial, training, submissive training
My Master and i practice Orgasm Control which is also known as Release Training. It is NOT the same thing as Orgasm Denial which both my Master and i do not feel is healthy. We ha[...]
Strict Self-Bondage by David Stein
Filed in: bondage
If nothing else, self-bondage has the advantage (as an anonymous wit once said of masturbation) that you don't have to look your best. You needn't impress or arouse anyone else. You can do it when you[...]
Submissive's Sample Set of Positions for Memorization by Author Unknown
Filed in: submission, training, positions
For Submissives of any Gender. Intended for Consensual Fantasy Play Only. ================ "Attention" Positions ================ 0 Standing upright, legs spread moderately, hands clasped [...]
Making a Corset Pattern with Duct Tape by Robin
Filed in: corsets, corset, duct tape, crafts, sewing, pattern, corset pattern
If this is your first time doing a corset, then a pattern might be the best, however that patterns tend to fit the "average" figure. To make a rough pattern of what you are, just as a starti[...]
A Master's Creed by Author Unknown
Filed in: inspirational
For people who wonder about a D/s relationship and often feel it is "degrading" to a woman, this should clear it up. True D/s involves much love, respect, and trust. Here is what one Master [...]
Defining the BDSM Lifestyle: The Essential Prerequisite by Polly Peachum and Jon Jacobs
Filed in: dominance, submission, lifestyle, sm, definitions, bdsm, essentials
The following talks were given by Jon and Polly to a diverse audience on the IRC channel #surrender_discuss on October 8, 1996. Polly and Jon were asked to speak on the subject "Defining the BDSM[...]
Take Your Breath Away: Basics of Breath Play by Norische
Filed in: how-to, breath play, beginners
Within the vast selection of BDSM activities not one is as dangerous as breath play. To be quite blunt there is NO safe way to participate in breath play. This is the only activity, that I am aware of[...]
Pecking Order: Multiple Slave Households by Norische
Filed in: training, slavery, protocol
Many individuals prefer multiple slaves/subs within the BDSM lifestyle. Several households have two, three, or more slaves/subs; in all honesty it is not unusual for an owner to prefer two or three sl[...]
Top Hat and Tails: The Basics of Formal Protocol by Norische
Filed in: protocol
Protocol - a series of rules and behaviors that are deemed appropriate and expected for certain circumstances. Formal Protocol - a rigorous series of structured behaviors that are used to focus atten[...]
Gorean Slave Positions by Unknown
Filed in: gorean information, positions
Nadu (Pleasure Slave Position) The first and most often used of all of the Gorean slave positions, and one of the first ones a slave learns. The command gets its name, Nadu, from the Gorean word for [...]
Five Phases of Punishment by Amsterdam News Desk
Filed in: punishment, discipline, process
Punishing is serious business. And good and effectful domestic punishment should be executed with care, a sharp for ritual and most of all, carefully planned and timed to create optimal[...]
Submissive Needs vs. Submissive Wants by Polly Peachum
Filed in: submission, needs, wants
Polly wrote the following message on a mailing list she once belonged to, in response to another submissive's message. All information that might identify this woman or her situation has been removed.[...]
Some Rules - Dominants by Mystre
Filed in: dominance, rules
[it's mutual] 1. Be patient! Until you enter into a contract with a submissive, you have no more right to order him/her around than does anyone else. Give your bottom time to get to know you and what[...]
Things To Know about Training a Slave by Author Unknown
Filed in: training, slavery
1. Know what you want. A master must be able to inspire confidence in others because he or she knows what they want, which implies that you know yourself and have scoped out what you want your slave t[...]
Blind Faith by Mistress Steel
Filed in: submission
BLIND: To conceal or to put something forward for the purpose of misleading. Subterfuge. One who acts to the point of insensibility. FAITH: To trust, give allegiance or loyalty to another. Fidelity t[...]
Hair bondage by Author Unknown
Filed in: how-to, bondage
Incorporating the hair in your bondage is appealing to many and for many different reasons. It dramatically increases the feeling of being restrained, it's incredibly intimate and personal, it can be [...]
BDSM Tips for Beginners by Lady Green and Jay Wiseman
Filed in: newbies, general knowledge
Hi folks. The following material is very closely based on the handout we give to the audience when we are invited to give an "SM For Beginners" presentation at a location such as a college c[...]
Controlling the Slave by lauraTV
Filed in: dominance, submission, training
Although these suggestions were written specifically for the Mistress of a feminized male slave, many of them may be applied to a broad range of Dominant/submissive relationships. It is important for[...]
Fisting (Vaginal that is) by chelgrrl
Filed in: how-to, fisting, safety, tips, vaginal fisting, large object insertion
I get a lot of responses when I say to people that I love to be fisted. Of course there is the Fister, the person who does the fisting and the Fistee, the one receiving the fist. Women fistees react i[...]
Limitations and Personal Growth by Rover
Filed in: dominance, submission
---------------------------- My usual disclaimer applies. These are simply My personal musings regarding a D/s topic. It works in My relationships, but certainly does not work in all relationships. A[...]
A Little Drool Never Hurt Anyone: Basics of Gags and Gagging by Norische
Filed in: how-to, gags, toys
Gags come in a variety of different styles, sizes and materials. There are two basic reasons that one uses a gag, to keep the mouth open or to keep the mouth closed, other than that their function is [...]
A Hot Time In The Old Dungeon Tonight: The Basics of Figging by Norische
Filed in: how-to, health and safety, figging, torture, history
A moan escapes as her tongue darts out and moistens her quickly drying lips. Her delicate hands clench and unclench with frustration; she wiggles her fingers furiously as she tries to rid herself of s[...]
Developing sub/slave Training Programs Part 1: The Assessment Phase by SAADE
Filed in: submission, training
Opening Statement:It is an awesome responsibility when someone asks you for training. Novice Dominants often jump at the chance to prove their prowess without thinking about the time commitment and t[...]
BDSM Truth or Dare by #Submission
Filed in: humor, fun
A game of T or D is always encouraged on channel. Some will play and some won't, so just talk and play around each other. It makes for a fun time. Thanks to the member[...]
One Dom's Point of View... by Michael P.
Filed in: dominance, inspirational
I am a dominant man. I am just that. I am not dominant because of any superiority on my part. Not because I feel I am more intelligent, or wiser. I am not dominant because of the strength or mass [...]
SM is... by Unknown
Filed in: humor
*SM is watching the neighborhood kids play cops and robbers, and the look on the face of the one that has maneuvered herself into being the victim - all tied up and the center of attention. *SM is wh[...]
Ten Commandments by Society of Janus
Filed in: dominance, submission, rules
Ten Rules for Dominants Ten Rules for Submissives 1 Be Patient Until you e[...]
Defining the BDSM Lifestyle: The Essential Prerequisite, part 2 by Polly Peachum and Jon Jacobs
Filed in: dominance, submission, lifestyle, sm, definitions, bdsm, essentials
Jon's Speech Hi, there! Polly has said the bulk of what we want to talk about tonight, but I do have a bit to add. I want to talk some about t[...]
Why staying "in the closet" isn't necessarily a bad thing by Phrodeaux
Filed in: family, bdsm, acceptance, approach, in the closet
The question often comes up when I'm with other BDSM-oriented friends: "What do your family and friends think?The answer, for us at least, is simple: "We've never brought it up."We're n[...]
Top 10 Signs you are Too Old for BDSM by Unknown
Filed in: humor
10. Sensory deprivation is when your Dom hides your hearing aid batteries. 9. Your nipple clamps have training wheels. 8. Edge play is standing by the microwave with a pacemaker. 7. When you tell y[...]
If I Ever See Another Checklist I Will Scream: An Extremely Thorough Play Checklist by Norische
Filed in: negotiation, play, checklist
There are a two primary reasons for this checklist, 1) Safety. In all scenes safety should be paramount. This checklist is created to cover health issues, safety issues, as well as personal preference[...]
Anal sex: A Delicate Decision by Cadillac Carter
Filed in: sex, anal sex
What is it about anal sex that makes us squirm? People pretend they don't do it when they do and many of us clam up because we don't. Anal sex is the last sexual act we find embarrassing to talk about[...]
I Could Beat You For That, But You Would Enjoy It Too Much: Alternative Punishments That Work by Norische
Filed in: punishment
Punishment by nature is something that is to be avoided, something that is negative; it should be unwelcome and act as a negative motivator. It can be used to motivate a submissive/slave to start beha[...]
Ceremony From The Heart: The Collaring Ceremony by Norische
Filed in: collars, ceremony
There comes a time in the life of all, that they feel incomplete, that there is something missing in their lives. Then someone comes into their world and fills the void, someone that has felt the same[...]
Clips and Clamps by Author Unknown
Filed in: how-to, clamps
First let me say this: Erotic pain is a very individual choice. Not all of you will find this appealing. For those who do, I hope this discussion will help you increase your skill. For those who don't[...]
Anal Advice by angel
Filed in: anal sex, tips, advice, sex advice, anal
Here are some tips to make anal play and anal sex more enjoyable for you. Step One: Enemas... Anytime i know in advance that Master is going to want to have anal sex (like when i have my period) i giv[...]
Establishing a Protocol by Laura Antoniou
Filed in: training, rules, etiquette, protocol, behavior
A talk given by Laura Antoniou, December 1, 2000What is the number one reason for failure of an S/M relationship?Lack of consistency. Not failed flogging or lack of fetish wear. Consistency.Basicall[...]
Seven Steps to Easy Fisting by Author Unknown
Filed in: how-to, fisting
Yes, you can get your whole hand inside your partner's pussy. For women who are into massive penetration, nothing is a bigger turn-on. No experience is necessary for either of you but if your gal pal [...]
Red Flags, Warning Signs, and Intuition: Learning to Trust You Instincts - Part One: Dominants by Norische
Filed in: newbies, lifestyle, dangers
Within this lifestyle there are unfortunately many dangers, there are people out there using the BDSM lifestyle as a way to abuse or use individuals under an umbrella of acceptance. Within each situat[...]
Guidelines for Conduct by Sergeant Major
Filed in: submission, training, rules
The role of a submissive at a public gathering is to add a sense of grace, charm and tranquillity to the event by the demonstration of their understanding of their chosen role. This is done through th[...]
Developing sub/slave Training Programs Part 2: The Training Phase by SAADE
Filed in: submission, training
The Training Program:Here we begin use the information gathered from the assessment phase. I divide the programming two categories: 1) Basic Training and 2) Advanced or specialty training.Basic Train[...]
The Power Of Submission by rarejewel
Filed in: submission
To understand the power of submission, one must first understand what being a submissive means, where it comes from and how it is expressed. True submission is something that comes from deep within a[...]
Cock and Ball Torture by Ms. Star
Filed in: how-to, cock and ball torture, torture
Introduction Cock and ball torture, or CBT as it is more commonly called, can involve a variety of things. Torture can be used to induce mild to severe pain or it can be used only to cause discomfort[...]
The Punishment Place by kaya
Filed in: punishment, slavery, discipline, forgiveness
Sometimes I get punished for not following a rule, doing something I know I'm not supposed to or vice versa. Those punishments seem perfunctory. It's an integral part of our lifestyle, this discipline[...]
Healthy Breast Bondage by Susan Wright
Filed in: health and safety, bondage, breasts
This document brings together information available on breast trauma and hypoxemia, usually quoting verbatim from the sources. Most of the information in Healthy Breast Bondage was found on the intern[...]
BDSM Definitions by D. Glenn Arthur Jr.
Filed in: general knowledge, definitions
BDSM = Bondage & Discipline, Dominance & Submission, S&M BDSM is a convenient abbreviation for most of the interesting activities discussed in alt.sex.bondage. It's so convenient that it [...]
Kids and BDSM by kaya
Filed in: outting, bdsm, safety, raising children, precautions
My daughter found the key and rifled through our toybox about two years ago. She was 12. This absolutely and completely traumatized her. She had enough knowledge (most likely from the internet) to kno[...]
Top 10 ways to be a SAM by Lady K
Filed in: humor
Get up on the wrong side of the rack this morning? A little miffed after that 12 hour bondage scene yesterday? Not getting enough of the whip? Perhaps you are just feeling kinda SAMmy? These are the t[...]
