http://thinkingdom.the-iron-gate.com Growth Through Mental Exercise Tue, 01 Jul 2008 16:00:58 +0000 http://backend.userland.com/rss092 en Top 10 things I really enjoy doing in a scene as a top. Top 10 things you worry about going wrong during a scene. Top 10 things you want your bottom to do during a scene. Top 10 things play things you want to master for scenes. http://thinkingdom.the-iron-gate.com/2008/07/01/top-tens/ In the previous post we pulled together a list of activities, behaviors and characteristics that we have as dominants. In this list we identified (hopefully) which ones we'd like to develop further. The next step is setting up a plan of action to strengthen these characteristics. Analyzing moderate steps to ... http://thinkingdom.the-iron-gate.com/2008/06/17/development-plan-of-action/ Hello Everybody, Just a quick note to announce that the new edition of The Dominant's View is now available at a computer new you! http://www.thedomsview.com The most important thing you should know is we now have a new Co- editor who will be sharing the job of running the zine and who will eventually take it ... http://thinkingdom.the-iron-gate.com/2008/06/13/new-edition-of-the-dominants-view/ You've come to a time in your Dominant development where you feel that you have nothing else to expand on and your abilities are as developed as you can get them. Where do you go from here? Do you concede that you just can't do any more within the extent ... http://thinkingdom.the-iron-gate.com/2008/06/03/proverbial-brick-wall/ Define your limits. Explain why you can't or won't go past that point and try to think about things that were once limits but are not any longer. This list can be a working list that you come back to often to update. http://thinkingdom.the-iron-gate.com/2008/04/10/limits/ How do you express your disappointment with your partner? Has it ever led to anger? How do you deal with your anger? Whether it is directed or a result of something within your relationship or if it is outside forces, how do you release that anger? I'm a talker. Others are silent introspective. ... http://thinkingdom.the-iron-gate.com/2008/03/27/dealing-with-anger/ I read an interesting post the other day about the administration of pain and the sadistic dominant's desire to inflict pain on the submissive. His exact question is: "Does a dominant want to hurt his submissive?" I was going to include my thoughts here for a moment, but I find ... http://thinkingdom.the-iron-gate.com/2008/02/21/pain-giver/ It is almost a universal knowledge that dominants expect their submissives to be honest with them. There is a real push to have complete openness and honesty in a BDSM relationship. There is no doubt that an open mind and heart can help make sure that all people in the ... http://thinkingdom.the-iron-gate.com/2008/02/07/honesty/ Sharing your favorites may seem like childish games, but it could help you focus on what you'd like to offer in a D/s or M/s relationship. Try to answer these as honestly as possible. Favorite: sexual position bondage style (metal, rope, leather, etc) impact toys psychological play activity non-sexual play manners in a submissive physical attributes training methods sexual orientation domestic ... http://thinkingdom.the-iron-gate.com/2008/01/24/favorites/ Manners and etiquette are an important part of a submissive's training. From basic courtesy to rigid formal protocol they all have their place in a submissive's experience. When it comes to teaching manners, it is the Dominant's preference on how these manners are to be used. I like a more structured ... http://thinkingdom.the-iron-gate.com/2008/01/10/politeness/